Long-term romance can get… dull. We all have those relationships where we get comfortable with someone, with a certain routine, and while that’s good in its own way, when it comes to keeping the spark of romance alive, you sometimes need to shake it up. We’ve done the research and found five sure-fire ways to spice up your romance.
#1 Set the Mood
We experience life with all five of our senses - sight, sound, smell, touch and taste. So when you’re cleaning or even just waiting for your significant other to come home, aim to embrace all of these senses. Soft lighting or candlelight is soft on the eyes and softens any flaws in the room; think about the colors that excite you or put you in “the mood” and add them to your decor (think linens, curtains, paint… though maybe don’t go overboard). Play music that makes you want to get intimate (not just sexually! See point three below). Diffuse a love potion
in your space to stimulate the senses. Prepare a buffet of aphrodisiacs (see point two for the details). And incorporate silk, fur, feathers, satin and other tactile enjoyments to your space so that you can enjoy relaxing with each other on the couch.
#2 Feed Each Other
They say the way to a man’s heart is through his stomach and while we cannot confirm this, per say, there are tons of recipes online that will help you increase the romance in your life (and by romance, we mean libido). Just research “aphrodisiac” and you’ll find complete lists that include strawberries, chocolate, asparagus, saffron, oysters, salmon and even pine nuts. But don’t just focus on aphrodisiacs - eat spicy foods as these get the bloop pumping and make your nerve endings more receptive. If you’re not big on cooking (or grocery shopping for that matter), take your S.O. out to a new restaurant. Trying a new cuisine together can be an interesting discovery, one you can do together.
#3 Stay Intimate
Intimacy encompasses more than just the physical, though that is a big part of intimacy. Getting intimate with your S.O. also includes focussing on each other and only each other. Turn off the TV, snuggle up with that delicious buffet you’ve prepared and stare into each other’s eyes. Ok, maybe don’t do JUST that. Play a board game. Talk about your day. Pretend its your first date all over again and ask questions like you don’t know the answers. Keep the intimacy going all through the week by making bold physical expressions. Touch your S.O. on the shoulder every time they walk past; give him or her a kiss on the forehead (or wherever) every time you cross paths. Have a date night once a month (or once a week if you have the time in your schedule). Just keep that connection going.
#4 Be Spontaneous
We think it was Kate Winslet that once said “Ah... romance to me is spontaneity. It's not diamond earrings; it's a bunch of daffodils that's freshly picked from the field.” And we agree. Incorporate spontaneity into your day-to-day life by sending a sexually loaded text (aka sexting); surprise your S.O. with breakfast or his/her favorite meal. Huge spontaneous actions can’t be sustained day in and day out, but it’s a great way to spice up your romance every once and a while. Clear your schedule one morning and take your S.O. on a day trip to somewhere exciting (or quiet, depending on what your S.O. likes).
#5 Learn Something
You know that feeling you get when you conquer a new challenge - that high that you ride and the confidence you get, like you can do anything? All those feelings give you a boost in your relationship. You feel more in control of your wants and desires. Imagine sharing that experience with your S.O. Overcoming the challenges of learning a new hobby will help you and your S.O. bond, bringing you closer together. Not big on hobbies? Do some exercise with your special someone. Getting the blood pumping and increasing your dopamine and endorphins will get the libido rolling as well, leading to some post-exercise “fun”. What do you do with your loved one to keep the romance alive? Share it with us on Facebook!